Best Friendship picz ever!!

Religious importance given to friendship

• "Friends always show their love. What are brothers for if not to share troubles?"- Proverbs 17:17

• "Some friendships do not last, but some friends are more loyal than brothers." - Proverbs 18:24
  

• "Forsake not an old friend; for the new is not comparable to him: a new friend is as new wine; when it is old, thou shall drink it with pleasure." - Sirach 9:10
  

• "An honest answer is the sign of true friendship." - Proverbs 24:26
  

• "A friend means well, even when he hurts you. But when an enemy puts his hand round your shoulder - watch out!" - Proverbs 27:6
  

• "Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up." - Bible: Ecclesiastes
  

Religious importance given to friendship..

• "My friends are my estate. Forgive me then the avarice to hoard them. They tell me those who were poor early have different views of gold. I don't know how that is. God is not so wary as we, else He would give us no friends, lest we forget Him."

• "The greatest love a person can have for his friends is to give his life for them."

• "A friend is one who strengthens you with prayers, blesses you with love and encourages you with hope."

• ""A faithful friend is a sturdy shelter; he who finds one finds a treasure."

• "Cherish your friend, keep faith in him"

• "Those who live in the Lord never see each other for the last time."

• " Faithful friends are beyond price: No amount can balance their worth

• "A mirror reflects a man's face, but what he is really like is shown by the kind of friends he chooses."

• "A friend loveth at all times."

• "Does it make me a stranger that my best friend was born in a manger?"

• "Iron sharpens iron; so a man sharpens his friend's countenance."

• "Friends in Christ are friends forever"

• "Friends are friends forever, if the Lord is the Lord of them and a friend will not say never, cause the welcome will not end Though it's hard to let you go In the Father's hands I know That a lifetime's not too long... to live as friends."

Best Friendship quotes ever!!

• The worst solitude is to be destitute of sincere friendship.

• We can live without religion and meditation, but we cannot survive without human affection

• There is nothing we like to see so much as the gleam of pleasure in a person's eye when he feels that we have sympathized with him, understood him. At these moments something fine and spiritual passes between two friends. These are the moments worth living.The most beautiful discovery true friends make is that they can grow separately without growing apart.

• We must reach out our hand in friendship and dignity both to those who would befriend us and those who would be our enemy.

• If one is estranged from oneself, then one is estranged from others too. If one is out of touch with oneself, then one cannot touch others.

• What do we live for, if it is not to make life less difficult for each other?

• A sense of duty is useful in work, but offensive in personal relations. People wish to be liked, not be endured with patient resignation.

• Few friendships would survive if each one knew what his friend says of him behind his back.

• Don't believe your friends when they ask you to be honest with them. All they really want is to be maintained in the good opinion they have of themselves.

• There is an energy field between humans. And, when we reach out in passion, it is met with an answering passion and changes the relationship forever.

• Friendship is a sheltering tree.

• True friendship consists not in the multitude of friends, but in their worth and value.

• "True friendship is like sound health; the value of it is seldom known until it be lost."

• "Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born."

• "A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out."

• "A friend is one who walks in when others walk out"

• "A friend is someone who knows the song in your heart, and can sing it back to you when you have forgotten the words."

• "A friend is one who believes in you when you have ceased to believe in yourself."

• "Don't walk in front of me, I may not follow. Don't walk behind me, I may not lead.
• Walk beside me and be my friend."

• "A hug is worth a thousand words. A friend is worth more."

• "Everyone is a friend, until they prove otherwise."

• "It takes a long time to grow an old friend."

• "Every person is a new door to a different world."

• "It takes a long time to grow an old friend."

• "Your friend is the man who knows all about you, and still likes you."

• "I get by with a little help from my friends."

• "Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up."

• "Two may talk together under the same roof for many years, yet never really meet; and two others at first speech are old friends."

• "Friendship is unnecessary, like philosophy, like art... It has no survival value; rather is one of those things that give value to survival."

• "I might give my life for my friend, but he had better not ask me to do up a parcel."

• "Friends are the most important ingredient in this recipe of life."

• "The better part of one's life consists of his friendships."

• "The love of my life is the love between friends."

• "One's best friend is oneself."

• "A Friend is someone who knows all about you and loves you anyway!!!"

• "To be depressed is to be lonely; to have a friend is to be happy..."
  

• Make new friends and keep the old, one is silver and the other gold

• Make new friends, both young and old, one in Silver, the other Gold.

• Make new friends but keep the old, some are silver and others are Gold

• "I have a hand, and you have another; put them together and we have each other."

• "Strangers are just friends waiting to happen."

• "Sometimes you pick your friends, sometimes they pick you."

• "The greatest good you can do for another is not just share your riches, but to reveal to him, his own."

• "Though our communication wanes at times of absence, I'm aware of a strength that emanates in the background."

• "I can trust my friends. These people force me to examine, encourage me to grow."

• "Treat people as if they were what they ought to be and you help them to become what they are capable of being."

• "Friendship is a pretty full-time occupation if you really are friendly with somebody. You canít have too many friends because then youíre just not really friends."

• "No love, no friendship, can cross the path of our destiny without leaving some mark on it forever."

• "Give others freedom to be themselves. Appreciate the differences between their ways an yours."

• "Friends are the Bacon Bits in the Salad Bowl of Life."

• "Friendship is one mind in two bodies."

• "Truth and tears clear the way to a deep and lasting friendship."

• "True friendship is never serene."

• "Friendship: a building contract you sign with laughter and break with tears."

• "Friends are God's way of taking care of us."

• "It's the friends you can call up at 4am that matter."

• "A friend is a gift you give yourself."

• "Friend - a person known well to another and regarded with liking, affection and loyalty."

• "A new friendship is like an unripened fruit - it may become either an orange or a lemon"

• "Anybody can sympathise with the sufferings of a friend, but it requires a very fine nature to sympathise with a friend's success."

• "Those friends thou hast, and their adoption tried, Grapple them to thy soul with hoops of steel; But do not dull thy palm with entertainment Of each new-hatch'd, unfledg'd comrade."

• "Friendship with oneself is all-important because without it one cannot be friends with anyone else in the world."

• "If you judge people, you have no time to love them."

• "I will speak ill of no man, and speak all the good I know of everybody."

• "Misfortune shows those who are not really friends."

• "Grief can take care of itself, but to get the full value of joy you must have somebody to divide it with."

• "Thus nature has no love for solitude, and always leans, as it were, on some support; and the sweetest support is found in the most intimate friendship."

• "Advice is like snow; the softer it falls, the longer it dwells upon, and the deeper it sinks into the mind."

• "The best mirror is an old friend."

• "What is a friend? A single soul in two bodies."

• "The friendship that can cease has never been real."

• "I count myselt in nothing else so happy As in a soul rememb'ring my good friends."

• "I find friendship to be like wine, raw when new, ripened with age, the true old man's milk and restorative cordial."

• "Sir, more than kisses, letters, mingle souls; For, thus friends absent speak."

• "Too late we learn, a man must hold his friend Unjudged, accepted, trusted to the end."

• "Friends have all things in common."

• "Without friends no one would choose to live, though he had all other goods."

• "My best friend is the one who brings out the best in me."

• "What sunshine is to flowers, smiles are to humanity. They are but trifles, to be sure but, scattered along life's pathway, the good they do is inconceivable."

• "No soul is desolate as long as there is a human being for whom it can feel trust and reverence."

• "It is a sweet thing, friendship, a dear balm, A happy and auspicious bird of calm..."

• "The best way to keep your friends is not to give them away."

• "The happiest moments my heart knows are those in which it is pouring forth its affections to a few esteemed characters."

• "One can never speak enough of the virtues, the dangers, the power of shared laughter."

• "Friendship is always a sweet responsibilty, never an oppourtunity."

• "There is magic in the memory of schoolboy friendships; it softens the heart, and even affects the nervous system of those who have no heart."

• "I no doubt deserved my enemies, but I don't believe I deserved my friends."

• "True friendship is never serene."

• "When friends stop being frank and useful to each other, the whole world loses some of its radiance."

• "Friends are born, not made."

• "This communicating of a man's self to his friend works two contrary effects; for it redoubleth joy, and cutteth griefs in half."

• "Life is partly what we make it, and partly what is made by the friends whom we choose."

• "There is no hope of joy except in human relations."

• "The making of friends, who are real friends, is the best token we have of a man's success in life."

• "Except in cases of necessity, which are rare, leave your friend to learn unpleasant things from his enemies; they are ready enough to tell them."

• "The most I can do for my friend is simply to be his friend. I have no wealth to bestow on him. If he knows that I am happy in loving him, he will want no other reward. Is not friendship divine in this?"

• "Friendship that flows from the heart cannot be frozen by adversity, as the water that flows from the spring cannogt congeal in winter."

• "Friendship without self interest is one of the rare and beautiful things in life."

• "Never kiss a friend. If you have deeper feelings, never reveal them. You will lose that friend forever..."

• "True friendship's laws are by this rule express'd, Welcome the coming, speed the parting guest."

• "Best friends are like diamonds, precious and rare false friends are like leaves, found everywhere."

• "Every man should have a fair-sized cemetary in which to bury the faults of his friends."

• "We are all angels with only one wing...we can fly only embracing each other."

• "If all my friends were to jump off a bridge, I wouldn't jump with them, I'd be at the bottom to catch them"

• "A good friend is hard to find, hard to lose, and impossible to forget..."

• "Time isn't what makes a friendship last...It's love and devotion that keeps the tie between souls."

• "The best antiques are old friends."

• "When the silences are no longer akward, you know you are around friends."

• "Friendship is a special kind of love."

• "The secret to friendship is being a good listener."

• "A true friend is someone you can trust with all your secrets."

• "Gems may be presious, but friends are priceless."

• "You my friend, I wiil defend. And if we change, we'll love you anyway."

• "If you have more than one friend, you have more than your share!"

• "Everyone hears what you say. Friends listen to what you say. Best friends listen to what you don't say."

• "A person is only complete when she has a true friend to understand her, to share all her passions and sorrows with, and to stand by her throughout her life."

• "Material things can't make the soul whole. The only the love, trust, and loyalty of friends can do that."

• "Friendship is not friendship without trust, without it I walk alone."

• "Friendship is the golden ribbon that ties the world together, friendship is talking to your best friend without words."

• "A true friend is the one who knows more about you than yourself and still loves you>"

• "Friendship is the golden thread that ties all hearts together"

• "Money might make you wealthy, but friends makes you rich."

• "You don't make friends, you earn them."

• "When your looking for a friend don't look for perfection, just look for friendship."

• " A friend is someone who sticks (hangs) to you at all times, and a friend is someone who you trust...."

• "How do you know you've found your best friend. When you are ready to talk to them about anything, even though they know everything about you already."

• "A friend with break your heart, a friend will mend it, a friend will provide you with every feeling in the world, good and bad. A friend is emotion incarnate."

• "Yesterday brought the beginning, tomorrow brings the end, but somewhere in the middle we've become best of friends."

• "When we are grown, we'll smile and say we had no cares in childhoods day, but we'll be wrong.
  

• 'Twill not be true, I've this much care... I care for you."

• "A faithful friend is a strong defence and he that hath found one hath found a treasure"

• "Friends are those who norish the spirit"

• "I'd like to be the sort of friend that you have been to me. I'd like to be the help that you've been always glad to be; I'd like to mean as much to you each minute of the day, as you have meant, old friend of mine, to me along the way."

• "A friend loves you, makes you feel alright, troubles are not troubles when you talk, listen and accept you as you are, because you will feel the same and love the same......."

• "Try to be governed by your loves and not your hates and find goodness and beauty where you can."

• "It is better to be thought of as a fool, rather than open your mouth to remove all doubt."

• Keep your eyes upon me, keep me in your sight, Help me don the crooked road, lead me to the light. The road I'm on is dark, I'm not sure if I know the way, Yet with you right beside me, I'm certain I won't stray. Protect me from the world, I know we'll make it through, Give me all the strength I need..... Let me lean on you."

• "No lapse of time or distance of place can lessen the friendship of those who are truly persuaded of each other's worth."

• "Friendship is what gets you through the bad times and helps you enjoy the good times"

• "Friends are angels following you through life"

• "Friends are like pillars on your porch. Sometimes they hold you up and sometimes they lean on you."

• "You cannot say you've lost a friend. If a friendship is capable of ending, it is because it never existed."

• "A world without a friend, what would it be? It would be like a world without water, something you need. Friends are like glass, once broken, they are hard to fix. Keep your friends, as you would keep your water."

• "The music may stop now and then, But the the strings will remain forever..."

• "Friend derives from a word meaning "free." A friend is someone who allows us the space and freedom to be."

• "Having someone who understands is a great blessing for ourselves. Being someone who understands is a great blessing to others."

• "Silences make the real conversations between friends. Not the saying but the never needing to say is what counts."

• "We cannot tell the precise moment when a friendshipt is formed. As in filling a vessel drop by drop, There is at last one drop that makes it run over. So in a series of kindness there is at last one drop that makes the heart run over."

• "Any day is sunny that's brightened by a smile...Any friendship blossoms if it's tended to with style."

• "The better you know someone, the less there is to say. Or maybe, there's less that needs to be said."

• "Every gift from a friend is a wish for your happiness..."

• "The most beautiful discovery that true friends can make is that they can grow separately without growing apart."

• "How lucky I am to have known someone who was so hard to say goodbye to."

• "I don't remember how we happened to meet each other. I don't remember who got along with whom first. All I can remember is all of us together...always."

• "You only meet your once in a lifetime friend... once in a lifetime."

• "A circle is round it has no end, that's how long I want to be your friend!"

• "A friend is like an oreo, its not always that great, but it always gets better!"

• "A best friend is a sister that destiny forgot to give you."

• "One loyal friend is better than ten thousand family members."

• "You just remined me of what's really important in life, friends, best friends."

• "Times of need are not enough to prove your friendship."

• "If your trusted and people will allow you to share their inner gardern...what better gift?"

• "A friend is someone who reaches for your hand, but touches your heart."

• "Friends are like Peanut Butter ... it sticks to the roof of your mouth .like a friend sticks to you.... and it feels as if they never go away.!"

• "True friendship, unlike love, always lasts forever."

• "To the world you are someone, but to someone you are the world."

• "A friend will be there for you when things are good...but a TRUE friend will be there for you when things are good and also when things are very bad...and just when it feels like you will never smile again...she can put a smile on your face with just with a hug!"

• "A real friend is not one who only entertain you, but one who cares about you, one who will be there when you cry"

• "Best friends are better than boyfriends."

• "As I reach a time of complete uncertainty, friends are my most precious asset."

• "There is no distance too great between friends, for love gives wings to the heart."

• "Where there is love there is life."

• "A friend will strengthen you with her prayers, bless you with her love, and encourage you with her hope."

• " I'd like to be the sort of friend that you have been to me. . . I'd like to be the help you've always been glad to be; I'd like to mean as much to you each minute of the day, as you have meant, old friend of mine, to me along the way."

• "A friend is like a rainbow. They brighten your life when you've been through a storm."

• "A friend in kindergarten is the one who sat next to you and let you have the pretty red crayon, when only the ugly black one was left."

• "True friendship is one that lasts even though one friend's sole has left this earth"

• "A reassuring presence, A LIGHT when times are dark, A hand reaching out, Is what friendship is about."

• "We always thought we'd look back on our tears and laugh, but we never thought we'd look back on our laughter and cry."

• When I'm asked what one happy thought is I always say knowing that no matter how big the fight is I will always havea best friend.

• "Dont walk on front of me, i may not follow~ dont walk behind me i may not lead~ just walk beside me and be my friend."

• "Love is blind, but friendship closes its eyes."

• "I believe in Angels, the ones that heaven sends
• I believe in Angels, but i call them my best friends"

• "Friendship is like a popsicle on two sticks, when the friendship breaks, so does the popsicle, making everything a mess"

• "Even on the road to hell a flower will make you smile."

• "Dreams are wishes casted upon stars, so catch a shining one ~ take your friend's hand~ and hold on forever"

• "Love doesn't make the world go round, it makes the ride worthwhile."

• "All our young lives we search for someone to love, someone who makes us complete. We choose partners and change partners. We dance to a song of heartbreak and hope, all the while wondering if somewhere and somehow there is someone searching for us."

• The Wonder Years - "We laughed until we had to cry.We gave love, right down to our last goodbye. We were the best we thought we'd ever be Just you and me,for just a moment...

• "You never lose by loving. You always lose by holding back."

• "My wish upon this shooting star is that your heart be happy."

• "If we discovered that we had only 5 minutes left to say what we wanted to say, every telephone booth would be occupied by people calling other people to stammer that they loved them."

• "A friend you have to buy, wont be worth what you pay for him."

• "I can doubt my friends, but I can believe in our friendship."

• "IF YOU TREAT YOUR FRIEND AS THEY SHOULD BE, THEY WILL BECOME ONE OF THE CROWD. IF YOU TREAT YOUR FRIEND AS THEY OUGHT TO BE TREATED, THEY WILL BECOME AN INDIVIDUAL."

• "True friends, like ivy and the wall stand together and both together fall."

• "Friendships are fragile things, and require as much handling as any other fragile and precious things."

• "With clothes the new are the best, with friends the old are the best."

• "Friendship is like thighs, they are always sticking together."

• "If you are going to gain anything in life, gain a friend, they will always be there, and that makes all the difference in the world."

• "True friends are never apart, maybe in distance, but not in heart"

• "A real friend will tell you when you have spinach stuck in your teeth."

• "Shared sorrow is half sorrow, shared joy is double joy"

• "Most people come into our lives and quickly leave. It is the special few that come in and leave a footprint in our hearts. and we are forever changed."

• "There is an exquisite melody in every heart. If we listen closely, we can hear each other's song. A friend knows the song in your heart and responds with Beatiful harmony."

• "Friends are like flowers, beautiful flowers; friends are like flowers in the garden of life."

• "True friendship is sitting together in silence and feeling like it was the best conversation you've ever had."

• "If we were leaving in a world where to say i love you would make more sense, i would always say you i love you"

• "Choose your friends carefully you never know who is on your side, and remember the truth shall prevail. "

• "False friends aren't always that bad because it shows you about yourself and teaches you to be strong and life goes on."

• "Remember that every good friend was once a stranger"

• "They say 'you only regret the things you never do.' Then why do I regret every bad thing I did to you?"

Friendship can be dangerous too!!!

Friends May Betray, Abandon, or Wound You!!!

We think of friends as positive relationships in our lives. Yet that is not always true. Avoid, end, or mend friendships who are harmful to you. There is no doubt that friendship can be risky. There is no crystal ball to predict that a particular friend will turn out to be a reliable, positive relationship in your life or, that a negative friendship will be harmful to you.
1.There are many types of negative friends, including the bloodsucker, the fault finder, the double crosser, and the copy catz so be carefull.

2. The email effect and how electronic communication has changed friendships for both the better and the worse so be alert.

3. There is misuse of friendship at work and dealing with a coworker's lies, deceit, or revenge tactics so be cautious.

4. How friends can change from wonderful to harmful. During the "courtship" phase when people are charming, polite, and trying hard to please, they are wonderful. Yet, once your friendship is well underway, some people may change to toxic friends so always be sharp.

How to become a good friend????

1. People Equal Friends.

There is a certain chemistry with friends just as in a love relationship. Therefore, contact with other people is the first building block to grow a friend. Friends can't grow in a vacuum. Best friends take time.

2. Talking Is Essential Among Friends.

Talking between friends requires reciprocity. In a mutually satisfying friendship, both friends talk and both friends listen. Friends talk appropriately to each other.

3. Friends Acknowledge Friends.

Friends acknowledge each other when talking. Many conflicts in your personal relationships can be avoided if you will take the time to acknowledge other's feelings and points of view.

4. Friends Listen to Friends.

Listening to friends in an important step in building a closer friendship. We often take listening for granted, never realizing what it means to really listen to a friend.

5. Friends Attend to Friends.

Friends focus during conversations. Friends pay attention in conversations. It means that your ears, your eyes, your body and your feelings are all focused on that person at the time.

6. Friends Show Empathy With Friends.

Empathy is identifying with your friend's feelings and seeing life through your friend's eyes. Confidences are freely given when they are received with empathy among friends.

7. Friends Touch Friends.

Touching is a warm form of communication between friends. When you see best friends communicating, you will notice friends "listen with their eyes," stand close together, and touch comfortably.

8. Friends Praise Friends.

Affirmation is a powerful tool for growing a friend. Genuine praise can affect your friends' lives. Be liberal with praise for all of your friends, including your casual ones.

9. Friends Are Loyal and Trustworthy.

Trust and loyalty go hand-in-hand for friends. Friends can trust you with their secrets, both large and small, because good friends never break a confidence. Good friends are forever loyal!

10. Friends are Equal.

Friends are on a seesaw. In a healthy relationship, friends are equals. Not 50/50 every time, of course, but with a true, lasting friendship it always evens out in the end.

11. Friends Reveal Their Feelings.

We feel closest to our friends when we are suffering together, when we feel like our friend needs us, or when we feel a friend has shared something of great importance with us.

12. Friends Do Not Mind Read.

The person who thinks, "If you really liked me, you could read my mind" can not have an adult friendship. No friend can read your mind. And you can not read your friend's mind.

How do you maintain limitationz in friendship???

Maintaining Limitz in Frienship!!!!

Many people find themselves caught up in others' problems, then feel confused about how and when to help. Take your good friend who just left her husband. Do you offer her a place to stay, money, advice, help with baby-sitting, a blind date or two? Or take the friend who can never make it to the end of the month on a budget. Every month you bail him/her out.

How much is enough?

And how much is too much?

What fosters self-esteem and self-reliance for the other person plus mutual respect for both of you while avoiding the pitfalls of dependency?

All relationships need limits whether they are friendships, sibling relations, mate/lovers, business relations, etc. On some level, all limit setting means saying "no." However, it is usually a qualified nay that says what, where, when, and under what circumstances you will give or not give to another person. If you have long-term feelings of resentment, anger, manipulation, being treated as unimportant, etc., you probably need to set some limits in your relationship. There are five steps to limit setting

: 1. Choosing to set limits. You will tolerate a difficult relationship situation just as long as you choose to tolerate it. You are the one choosing to set boundaries in place.


2. Identify the source of your feelings. It often takes some real soul-searching on your part to figure out the source of your anger or resentment


. 3. Decide where to set the limits. Think about the entire situation. Consider your time, emotions, and means. Then consider whether you are helping the other person or merely allowing them avoid or postpone his/her own problem solving. Aim to do something to help the other person without taking on the whole problem.


4. Express the limits clearly. For example, you say to your friend, "I will loan you up to $200.00 no more than once every three months. And I expect each loan to be repaid within three months and certainly before you can borrow more." You say to another friend, "You can stay here for three weeks but you must help me with expenses and cooking and definitely find your own place before the three weeks is up." You say to your newly divorced friend who calls often to rehash her hurt and anger, "I have to go in five minutes."


5. Stick to your limits.You are not responsible for making the other person obey the limits. You are only responsible for following the limits yourself and for reinforcing them. Your divorced friend says at the end of five minutes, "But I'm not through. I really need to tell you one more thing." You say, "I know we're in the middle of something but I must go.

Perhaps we could take this up again Thursday after work." Your friend has repaid $125.00 of his/her $200.00 loan and asks for $200.00 more. You say no. He/she gets emotional then says, "Well just loan me the $125.00 again. I need this money to cover a bad check. If you cared for our friendship, you would do it." Again, you say no, not because you don't care for him/her but because you do. You are forcing your friend to detach him/herself from dependence on you because you care. Limit setting is difficult because people mistake it for rejection. However, limits mean that you care enough not to get entangled in your friend, lover, sibling's problems; you care enough not to take care of him/her... Limit setting is often stressful and painful. It will probably give you an intimidating sense of aloneness. You are separating yourself from old familiar roles and behavior patterns. Any loss brings feelings of anxiety, stress, and even emptiness. And limit setting inevitably brings guilt. Bear in mind, it doesn't mean you have deserted or quit loving your friend, lover, or sibling. It does mean you are expressing that love in a different and more helpful (to both of you) manner. Setting limits is a challenging task at work; it often seems an insurmountable task when love is involved. However, like all people skills, setting limits is a process that gets easier with practice.

"If you have long-term feelings of resentment, anger, manipulation, being treated as unimportant, etc., you probably need to set some limits in your friendship"

Important aspects of friendship!!!!

Friendship is an in-depth relationship. Friendship is comfortable and relaxed. Friendship requires meeting the needs of both friends.

Building a friendship from casual friends. Building friendships takes time. Friendships require self-disclosure so any friendship has risks, Talking and listening builds friendships. Friendships require equality and loyalty from friends.

Maintenance of friendships is crucial. Friendships can not be neglected. One-on-one contact is a prerequisite of friendships. Friends must be flexible. Conflict must be resolved for friendships to continue.

Friendships do end. Friendships may not last. Friendships can lose importance and die gradually. Some friendships end abruptly with unresolved conflict. The worst enemy of friendships is change by one or both friends. There is usually pain with the loss of friendship.

Setting Limits in Friendships Friendships as well as all other relationships must have limits. You set limits with your friends because you care for them and your relationship with them, not because you don't.



Manipulation: If you think you are being manipulated, either by a friend, mate/lover, or relative, take this short test to check it out.

Conversation: Being able to carry on a comfortable conversation with a social acquaintance is a matter of practice and following certain procedures in communicating. It also works for best friends, too.

How do we build friends???

In most cases, the transition from acquaintance to friendship occurs gradually. We reach out to offer friendship by offering a potential friend caring, listening, talking, sharing, accepting, and affirming. It takes time and effort to build a friendship. They are built slowly, slowly, slowly...
Yet, nothing can add more to your life than having truly intimate friends. "Just friends" is a goal worth pursuing!

Friendships can take up to three years to build! And building friendships is much the same for children as adults, but a bit quicker!

• Self-Disclosure builds friendships.

Self-disclosure is usually the first step in establishing a confidant. And it is scary because of the potential rejection factor. Do it anyway!

Start by sharing a few private thoughts and/or feelings with one person you might want for a close friend. If the person is responsive, he/she will usually share a personal thought or two with you.

If he/she is not responsive to your overtures, don't think of this as a rejection.People may be non-responsive for reasons of their own or merely as a perception of yours. Nevertheless, they can't be rejecting you because they don't even know you yet.

• Listening and acknowledging builds friendships.

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Often when your child, lover/partner, or friend tells you a story or voices a complaint, he/she is just asking for acknowledgment.

This does not mean that he/she wants agreement or compliance; it merely indicates a desire to be heard and understood.

Try these three steps to acknowledgment:

1. Repeat back.
2. Don't invalidate.
3. Don't try to change.
4. Don't problem solve.
Many conflicts in your personal relationships can be avoided if you will take the time to acknowledge other's feelings and points of view. For more information about acknowledgement, click here.

• Listening and attending builds friendships.

Paying attention to someone is called "attending." It means that your ears, your eyes, your body and your feelings are all focused on that person at one time. Attending is a very important part of any relationship. It includes:

1. Being there physically
2. Focusing
3. Eye contact
Looking at and focusing on another person shows that you are "there for him/her." For more information on attending, click here.

Talking Is a Primary Building Block of Friendships.

Talking is an integral component of friendship.

When a friend talks and reveals ideas or feelings, he/she is expecting shared information in return. When the talk is not equal, the person talking feels as if the listener is uninterested.

In fact, the person who is always the listener is really playing the role of a counselor, not a friend. Anytime you have been talking for more than a minute or two without participation from the person you are talking to, you are lecturing, bossing, or putting that person in the role of a counselor.

• Loyalty, Equality, and Respect build friendship.

Friends are equal. Without equality, you can't have a close friendship.

Friends are loyal and trustworthy. No one can confide in someone they can not trust to be loyal and to keep his/her secrets.

Friends have similar values. Our value system is so important to us that our friends' values must be close to our own or we will not have respect for this friend.

"Attending builds friendships and acknowledging builds friendships. Friendships require equality and friendships require loyalty from friends. It takes three years to build true friendship."